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Successful people are able to develop strong, good relationships. Need some help with building a new one? Use the following advices.
Use the first name.
During the conversation, use the first name of the person you are relating to. It is probably the nicest sound for his or her ears. Use it quite often, but don’t exaggerate. It must fit naturally into talk.
Find common subject for conversations.
This one works really well. If you find the common subject, you are on a good path. The conversation goes into more relaxed, comfortable manner. You can discuss about it for a very long time, exchange your experiences, share emotions while building strong connection. You will always be able to use this subject to reestablish conversation, strengthen your relationship or rebuild it.
Smile.
Simple, obvious and effective. Relax and smile. If you smile, you are perceived as a positive person. If you are a positive person, other people would more likely build a relationship with you. Smile is also very ‘infectious’. You smile to other person, the other person usually responds with smile. When he or she is smiling, you are in positive mood (of course I think about natural smile). When you both are in positive mood, developing a relationship is much easier and more entertaining.
Talk about yourself.
It is especially good while you are establishing a relationship with shy or introvert person. You have to take a lead and do work for both of you. Try to focus on some easy and funny things from your life, best if packed with action and emotions. It can be your hobby, sport, movies or restaurant where you have recently eaten a great dish. Don’t go to deep into details. Observe your listener. You can’t make him or her yawning. From time to time, try to stimulate, by asking for opinion or advice.
Be honestly interested in that person.
This point looks like a contradiction to the previous one. It is depending on type of person you are relating to. Some people talk a lot and the only thing you have to do is to ‘trigger’ them and then listen, while other prefer to listen to you, what means you have to put more effort to ‘open’ them and make them talking. But this advice works almost in every situation. Stop talking about yourself and start asking questions. Be interested in person you are building relationship with. Remember that this is not a quiz show. Don’t ask tons of short questions, jumping from one subject to another. For instance, you can ask about passions. Honestly be interested in what your interlocutor has to say about it. People love to talk about things they like to do and everybody will appreciate if you are a good listener for their stories.
