Body language is a term coming from social psychology and refers to the non-verbal communication like gestures, body movement, facial expressions and even movement of eyebrowns. Body language can send more than 50% of your message.
All the time we are sending non-verbal signals. When we are aware of that and we do this at least partly intentionally it is called voluntary body language. Involuntary body language relates to those gests and movements that may be interpreted by observer, revealing your thoughts and feelings.
Body language is very important. If your body says something different than you speak, most people would believe in signals send by body.
Of course, there are no doubts that it is worth to work on own body language. The messages that you are sending would be stronger. Having good body language you will make better “first impressions” and you will be more attractive. Both in sexual and non-sexual way. Body language works also on emotional level. If you have a lot of positive energy, you feel good then your body language shows it. You are smiling and your whole body expresses these feelings. Then you influence moods and emotions of other people that surround you. If you express these on the stronger level than the other person does, he or she will share emotions with you.
Having even basic knowledge about body language will help you also in reading messages, signals and emotions of other people you communicate with. It is very useful ability.
Below are some tips and techniques which are easy and I like a lot:
- Crossing arms and legs means that a person is in defensive, insecure position. Don’t do this. Open your arms, relax.
- Smile a lot. Laugh if there is a reason to do so. It will make atmosphere more relaxed and positive. Share good emotions with others. However, people who laugh too much, very often are dishonest on something.
- Touching your faces means you are nervous. Avoid it.
- Try to mirror the other person. Observe his or her body language. Mirror his state, gestures and feelings. You will make a better connection and increase the level of understanding each other.
- First and last seconds of your performance are very important. They are most remembered by the audience. Use very strong, positive gests and emotions during that time.
- Observe other people’s body language. It is very good source to learn. Listen to them and see how they express their message with gests and facial expression.
- It is good to see yourself sometimes from outside. Experiment in front of mirror.
- Try to express something different than your words mean. Look how others receive such message. Try to find out when they will believe in your body and when in your words.
- Communicate on different distance. Check how communicating process changes when you are closing or moving farther from other person. Notice reactions.
- Look into eyes. It is not comfortable for lair to do the same. Keeping eye-contact also makes a better connection.
- Head position is very important. Keep it up straight. Lowered head signals that a person is hidding something.
Remember to relax. Observe others, practise a lot and improve your body language. Have a lot of fun.
This post was published in past on MindEssential.com, my previous blog that is currently off-line.
